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Independence Isolation

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Does something stop you from asking for help or what you need? Today I was thinking about why was it I was reluctant to send out my two monthly emails. I had reluctance to do the promotion needed to gain clients and run my business. The answer that came to mind was I didn’t want to “bother” people. I find the flurry of emails that I just delete from stores and other mailing lists too much sometimes and I don’t want to be “that guy”. The sad part is that not only does my business suffer but my clients can’t get the help they need because I don’t want to “bother them”.

As I thought about this little revelation, it came to me that others probably feel the same way. I have always had a fiercely independent do-it-yourself vibe, that I assume was imprinted from my family or is just a byproduct of my curiosity about how things are done. The character trait of independence can be so isolating and exhausting. I usually only ask for help when I can’t figure out how to do something on my own or physically can’t do it on my own. I get embarrassed at my weakness or inability to be successful on my own. I feel like I am bothering the people who could help me in completing a task. Maybe it is because I have the false belief that they are too busy to help me, that they are unwilling to help, or that their help comes at a cost I can’t afford right now. 

My solution to this thinking is to not just make an affirmation of the reverse idea, but to think about it in group terms to compassionately defuse harsh judgments  and slowly bring it back to treating myself as I would others. I created this declaration affirmation to repeat when I started to put too much emphasis on how I needed to do it all myself. 

Everyone has a right to co-exist and take up space. 

We all need help from time to time.

All people help each other and have to take time to do so.

Everyone can benefit from helping exchanges. 

We are not alone in dealing with suffering, for everyone deals with it. 

As I support others in compassion, may I also hold myself.

For I am part of everyone. 

I hope, like me, you receive solace from saying these words and that they improve your ability to offer help, and receive it.

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Goals for hypnosis., Past life Regression, Uncategorized

Can a Past Life Regression be Practical?

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Most of the people who come to me for a past life regression are spiritual people or seekers who want to explore the mysteries of past lives, but they sometimes overlook the practical applications of past life regression. I can see why people would think that something so seemingly mystical would not have any practical, day-to-day, or mundane uses. The truth is that we can work on many of our current issues by seeking out our past life experiences and relating them to our present day lives.

Imagine all the wisdom that can be gained from living multiple lifetimes that we can tap into through regression. You have lived, loved, failed, overcome traumas, and a multitude of other experiences in these past lives that could enrich your understanding of your current life.  Even if you don’t believe in past lives there is great healing benefit in allowing your subconscious to present you with a story that gives you insight, answers to current issues, and healing from another point of view. Stories can give us insight by creating distance from the issue and working on the intangible programs and emotions through poetic metaphor. 

A friend of mine did a regression to find why they were blocked in their writing. They had started and thrown out multiple books and never seemed to get to publishing. They found through regression that they had worked as a reporter investigating a story about the mob. While researching the story got the unwanted attention of the mob and they were murdered as a result. Once they had experienced this reason that had become a pattern that no longer served in this life suddenly their block was gone. They went on to write and publish multiple books. 

A client wanted to know how to make their current relationship better. Through the regression process they experienced past life relationships that were unrequited loves, settling for “less” loves, and ones that went sour but there were still rewarding to experience. Through this process they found that they knew from comparison what they wanted to get from a relationship. How to foster greater communication with their partner by not following the same patterns from sour relationships. To value what they wanted out of life and find compromises that worked for them. 

Even I have used this process to gain insight when I felt the need to heal some work traumas. A life as a Roman solder gave me insight into why in this current life I have had issues with orders that are not explained to me, being condescended to, and why I thought I couldn’t be a writer for so long. With these understandings I could make the changes I wanted to see now. It freed up my creative work to start to flow again. 

Maybe there is an issue you are struggling with that could benefit from some insight and clarity from gaining another perspective from your past lives? Set up a free discovery session using the link below and we can talk about the benefits you are looking for. 

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Upgrade Your Habits

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Today I was starting my work at my desk. Turning on the computer, I noticed my trackpad was not working. I went downstairs for new batteries for it and put them in. No lights or response from putting in the new batteries. I tried again with other batteries, just incase the first set didn’t work. I asked my more technical partner what to do and got the advice to go and have it replaced. It was super frustrating. 

I gathered up my stuff to go to the local computer store. I found that they didn’t make the model I was using anymore and now the new trackpads could be recharged without batteries. I asked some questions about if the cord would be in the box for me to charge it. Off I went to home. I quickly installed the new one on my desk and I was off and running, better then before. 

Now I don’t tell you this absolutely boring story for no reason. After all this was done I thought to myself how this broken trackpad was like a bad habit or limiting belief. Sometimes habits serve us well for a time and we feel like we get what we need from them. Like my old trackpad, times change and what serves us well at one time breaks down and doesn’t work any more. We need to replace it with a newer more functional model of habit or belief.

It takes a bit of effort to make the change to a new habit or belief that will serve us better in the long run. That is part of what I do in hypnosis. When you realize something is not working for you any more and you are ready to update to a better model, I am here for you. Sign up for a free consultation and we can talk about swapping out that old program for a better one.

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Gifting Hypnosis

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I had client ask me today if I offered hypnosis gift cards because they wanted to give one of their relatives a hypnosis package. Giving the gift of hypnosis to another is a deeply personal thing. You have to know they would be open to receiving such a profound gift, that they are ready to work on whatever the purpose of the session or package is. It could potentially be offensive to gift someone a session for an issue they either are denying or are just not ready to work on. For example, right now I am gearing up for another round of weight-loss hypnosis group in January and I can only imagine trying to give this to a relative would be hard on your relationship. The only person who knows if they are ready to feel better and change is them.
So here are my suggestions to gift hypnosis compassionately:

  • Introduce them to hypnosis before giving it as a gift. Talk to them about its benefits maybe even show them my website. Phrase it as your interest that you are sharing with them. Ask them what they think: Would they ever try hypnosis? What would they like to achieve with it? It is best not to surprise someone with it.
  • See if they want to check it out by signing up for a free discovery session where they can ask questions about hypnosis and talk with a hypnotist about what they want to change. Make sure they get to do this alone just in case they are nervous about someone judging them on what they choose to work on. 
  • If they seem interested, make up a special card for the holiday that has a “coupon” from you that says you will purchase a hypnosis package for them. You can also give them some options like “hypnosis or a spa day”. This will take some of the pressure of them so they can decide on their own what would help them more.
  • Be gentle and know it is okay if they are not ready. People like to do things on their own time-table and trying to force it on the holiday will not ingratiate you to them. They also may be more resistant to working towards change because they felt forced or cajoled into it. 

Lastly, note that I don’t offer gift cards. I suggest using some of the ideas above to gift hypnosis with compassion if you feel it is something that would benefit someone in your life.

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Uncategorized, Weightloss

Five tips for Thankful Holiday Eating.

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Thanksgiving can be a difficult time to focus on weight reduction. We have our favorite dishes available, the stressors of family coming, missing family who can’t come, preparing a meal to share, and just thinking up what you are going to say when asked “What are you grateful for?” Here are some things to help you manage during the upcoming holiday:

  1. Be curious about why you are eating. Before you even taking a bite or putting something on your plate ask yourself: How hungry am I? What am I feeling if I am not hungry? Why do I feel that way? What other then eating can I do to satisfy that feeling? Taking on this curiosity about why you are eating can help you manage your eating and your feelings. This year you might want that second piece of pie because you are missing part of your family due to travel restrictions. It is a better use of your time to call them or imagine them healthy and happy then to reach for something your not really hungry for.
  2. Savor every bite of food. Take your time and really taste your food. The slower you eat the more you are going to realize when you are done eating. You will also enjoy your food more. Let your eating become a mindfulness practice. 
  3. Redirect your “food pushers.” The people who care about you, and who may have cooked for you, may see you eat less than usual and try to push food on you. Politely tell them you are not hungry for more and redirect them to talk about what is going on with them. “I am not hungry for food right now, but I am hungry to know about how you have been.”
  4. Enjoy your time with family. If it is nice out, go out for a walk or play an outdoor game. Play a board game or watch a show or a movie together, if it is not nice out. Make the focus on fun rather than food. 
  5. Have your favorite dessert. I know it sounds crazy to say this when we are trying to reduce weight but denying yourself your dessert can make you want it more. Denying yourself any dessert makes you want it more and then when you have a less willpower-driven moment you find you have eaten it, and even more then you need. A whole pie instead of a small piece of pie is a big difference! Instead of getting into this cycle, decide on having a little of your favorite, savoring every bite. Try to eat it as slowly and mindfully as you can. You may even find you leave some on your plate.

Wherever you are, be forgiving with yourself. Even if you “slip up” or indulge a bit on a holiday, it is just one day, and you can continue to be mindful about your eating and your relationship with food going forward.

Wishing everyone a safe, happy, and healthy holiday!